Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Proverbs 31:30

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Friday, September 21, 2012

The Friends are taking over!!!!!!!



Hello everyone!  Today the FRIENDS are taking over and  linking up to Kelly's Korner for her SUYL- Singles!  Tiffany has  been reading her blog for some time and we made the executive decision to post about her (after some major convincing to let us do it) As her friends we want the best for her and want to see her meet the man GOD has for her that will prove to her he does exist.  We are tired of seeing her get hurt - but that another topic!   We know he is out there!  


From Lauren....

Tiffany is truly my best friend.  We have been through a lot and I don't know what I would do without her.  I love her so much and I know any guy that is with her would be pretty lucky.  (Warning..if you hurt her you better leave the country because her friends don't play LOL)  I can't say enough good things about Tiffany!  I will say that she wants a guy to run the race WITH her to push her to grow closer to God. She is selfless and that will help with the whole submission thing in marriage ---just sayin!  I am a cryer and if I write anymore I am going to lose it so just know that Tiffany is very passionate about living for God and sharing the journey with the man God wants her to have! ( I personally am not going to let her settle)


So here goes nothing....Meet Tiffany!


From Gina....







It's extremely hard to put into a small paragraph everything there is to know about Tiffany. We met this summer in a small group and I knew we would be friends but I didn't realize just how close we would be and later on we actually found out we're cousins which makes it better!

Tiffany is the most genuine person I know. She works hard, is so kind and very smart. She's beautiful on the outside and inside. Tiffany has a true heart for God and for ministry. She's very involved in our church and is also attending Bible college with me. She loves kids and to laugh (a lot!). I think anyone would be lucky to have her in their life. I know I am :) 



From Natalie....
I have known Tiffany for a while now and the time I have known her hasn't been long enough.  We met in College as Diamond Dolls and this girl is passionate about some baseball (or maybe it's the guys in tight pants - totally kidding)  My husband and I are grateful for her in our life and she truly cares about every single person she meets.  I have never met anybody that is willing to go out of their way like she is.  I hope my daughter has a friend like her when she grows up.


This is from Tiffany...


I can't believe my friends are wanting to do this!  I guess it should tell me that they think I need some assistance in this area LOL  I don't like talking about myself at all but for the sake of this here goes......I'm from SWEET HOME ALABAMA - ROLL TIDE =)  I have always been attracted to southern boys - I mean the guys that know how to treat a woman and are hard workers, I do not mean rednecks!  I am getting picky about guys but it's because I have had some not so good experiences and now I know what I want.  There is really only 1 deal breaker for me because I think that the other "critical factors" will come out of the 1st.  The deal breaker is if the guy isn't a true Christian then I am not going there! (another would be if you are a cat person LOL)

I personally think that I have the best family and friends in the world and I am very close to them and wouldn't trade them for the world.  That being said, if the guy doesn't get along with them then he probably wouldn't want me either!  

I would say my "ideal match" would be a guy that is a Christian, confident, funny, outgoing, athletic, driven, and has goals in his life.  I would want someone that would want to be spontaneous and take a trip to Nashville (my favorite place) just to listen to a band.  I should NOT know more about baseball or football than him! Someone who wouldn't care if I was dressed up or in a shirt and jeans.  

God has really been working in my life for the past year and I am SO grateful for both the opportunities He has given and the ones He has taken away.  I have learned a lot and I am still learning and growing.  I am in Highlands College to pursue His calling on my life to one day minister to hurting women who have faced the things I have faced so I can share His love for them and how He will walk with them and love them in spite of their past!!!! The only thing "missing" in my life is a GOOD guy to share this journey with.  


If you want to know anything else about me just let me know!  I am pretty open and honest and as my friends would probably say...BLUNT!

Looking forward to talking with you but just know that GOD has a purpose for where you are in this journey and HE has a plan for your life!  He won't EVER let you down!!!!!!


If you want to know more about Tiffany then email her and let her know her friends are awesome for doing this too!  =) tiffanyh031@gmail.com


Friends don't let friends date crazies - anymore :-)

Gina, Lauren and Natalie

Monday, September 17, 2012

Which way is up?????

My life is going at the speed of light right now and I LOVE it!!!!!  (even if I feel like I don't know which way is UP)

Highlands College has been so crazy awesome and God has really been revealing himself to me in new ways and showing me just what He has called me to do.  I am so excited for this journey!  Also, as part of Highlands College we have to go through a small group called LIFE (Living in Freedom Everyday) and...WOW...the freedom is amazing!  My life is being rocked by so many God moments right now it has been AMAZING!!!!  I stinking LOVE my church!!!!


It's been almost 7 months since I started going to Highlands and if anybody had of told me then that I would be in the place I am now....well I probably would have laughed in their face!  Just sayin!  But 7 months ago I finally gave in and visited and my world was rocked!!!!  There was a song my 1st Sunday that spoke to the core of me and I am SO excited that now I can listen to it all the time.... (#12)



Place of Freedom.....oh how that song - those words - spoke to me in a way that would start this journey that I am on today!  God used a very talented COTH worship leader to write that song and He orchestrated me to be there on the very day that song was introduced so that I would finally take my mask off and let Him  bring the freedom I DESPERATELY wanted.


I don't know what is in store but I do know that God's got this and I don't need to know the rest!!!!

Oh and BTW  Place of Freedom is released TOMORROW  so go ahead and get on over to Itunes and BUY IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stay tuned.....

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Let's Launch!!!!!!

Oh my GOODNESS!!!!!!!!  I am SO excited (actually that is an understatement)!  Tonight is my FIRST night of Highlands College and I am STOKED!!!!!!


Last night we had orientation and I went into it with still a little bit of nervousness but LET ME TELL YOU .....I am fired up now about seeing what God has in store for our church, our class, and us as individuals!

God is going to do something HUGE and I CANNOT WAIT!!!!!!!!!  I am so blessed and honored and humbled to know that God thinks I can be used by Him to do great things!  That is not something that I am going to take lightly either!  I want to be His hands and feet in this crazy place!

One of the pastors was talking last night and what he said sent CHILLS up my spine.... He said that we are the answers to THOUSANDS of years of prayers because the "harvest is plentiful and the workers are few"  and we are those workers!  If that doesn't fire you up then I don't know what will!

I have been reading with #SheReadsTruth and God has really been speaking to me about what being a leader means and He has REALLY been working on me to crave His wisdom above anything else and I desperately want that!  I am a hot head a lot of times and I have NO filter on my mouth and that has gotten me into plenty of trouble but to truly walk in wisdom I need to ask God to reign that in ALOT and help me to control the anger, the ahem...bluntness, and to help me walk with the Wise so I will become Wise!

I can't wait to share more with you but I want to leave you with this.....


Stay away from fools, because they can’t teach you anything.

Proverbs 14:7 MSG

Sunday, August 19, 2012

She Shares


SheShares
So I have told y'all about #shereadstruth before but let me tell you finding that resource has been the best thing EVER!!!!!!
We are currently doing the study of Proverbs and for the past few days God has really been dealing with me about wisdom and if I really want it or not.

My life has not looked like I am diligently seeking after more wisdom.  I have looked like the "fool" most times but I know God is going to help me reverse that! 

Here recently I have had the opportunity to talk to my boss about a potential promotion and thinking about that opportunity and doing this study has motivated me to REALLY seek His wisdom. I will have people answering to me and I need to be a godly example even more when that takes place.  I want to be the boss that the employees ask to pray for them because my life shows that I spend time with the KING.

But I also know that it doesn't matter what my job title is if I don't learn how to lean on God and trust him with EVERYTHING in my life!

God has also been dealing with me on how I need to learn how to SHUT UP!!!! I tend to say what I think when I think it and that has gotten me into trouble.  Pray with me that I learn how and when to be quiet when I need to be and speak when I need to.

I am going to urge you to spend time with your Daddy and let him guide you in His wisdom.  It is not about us being PERFECT (ahem UNATAINABLE) it is about us being WILLING to give up the navigation of our life and let him show us which way to go and when to go!

Stay tuned tomorrow for EXCITING NEWS!!!!!

Friday, August 10, 2012

Purity Redeemed



So today I have something very close to my heart to share with you.  I was reading today’s Proverb at #SheLovesTruth and I couldn’t help but tear up.  Today’s reading was Proverbs 5 and it is a warning against adultery.  So many people are affected by adultery every single day and it isn’t even strictly the physical affairs.  It’s emotional adultery, adultery on our future spouses and adultery on GOD.  The subject of adultery stings me EVERY time the topic comes up.
Starting in high school I felt the pain and regret brought on by adultery.  I went into jr. high and high school sporting everything True Love Waits that I could get my hands on.  I wanted to be spotless when I married my future husband and I was CONSUMED by the thought of that person.  I made it a point to stay away from sex up until my senior year (not saying that I didn’t dance on the “line” because I did).  Then 1 night during right before Spring Break my senior year my life suddenly changed and I couldn’t have stopped it.  I was DESTROYED.  My virginity, that I held so precious, was STOLEN by someone that I considered a friend.  That event sent me on a spiral down and it happened very quickly.  Because I was no longer “pure” I thought nothing mattered anymore and that no guy would ever want me after that.  I thought God didn’t want me either.  For 9 years after that I lived with the mindset that I was worthless because I was raped.  I continued to seek after the 1 guy that would just love me for me.  I was so broken that I compromised and compromised and compromised.  I became numb to sex to the point that sex was a given in the relationships that I was in.  I ran from God but went through the motions of “good little church girl” to please my family.  I didn’t see that the whole time that I was living in this life of adultery on my future spouse and on GOD that God was still right there protecting me like he always had.
This past January I had enough of this life and I decided to start counseling…I had to do SOMETHING…I had to FIX this.  I started counseling and I told my best friend that I just needed a “fresh start” that maybe that would fix things but I still felt like God didn’t want me anymore.  She told me I needed to consider changing churches and really start over.  She invited me to her church and the moment I walked in the door I felt God again.  I felt like he was saying “Tiffany, stop running and just come home. I don’t care what you have done just come back to me and let me LOVE you because I DO want you” To say that service was the launching pad would be an understatement.  The Sunday that I went the worship team introduced a new song written by one of the team members called “Place of Freedom” and OH MY GOODNESS that song broke me completely.  I remember hearing this phrase “I’m gonna sing my song like I am UNASHAMED I’ve come to worship I‘ve come to worship” and completely losing it.  I think all the pain, regret, shame, guilt, etc came flooding out all at once.  I remember having my hands raised but it taking all the energy in my body to stay standing up.  I left the service wanting more.  I left my church the next week and started going with my friend.  I joined a small group the next month(or so) and I know God let me pick the one I went to because IT CHANGED MY LIFE.  The leader felt like God had called her to do the group at the time she did it and that He was going to send the people that needed it the most (imagine that)  The first night she told her story and I think I sat there with my mouth open the whole entire time.  Her story was very close to home and there she was ministering to us!  She told us that the theme of the group was how God uses our past as our ministry.  In the SHORT period of time that we had together God used that group to show me that just because I had messed up didn’t mean that I was useless.  He KNEW what I did before I did it and He STILL wanted me.  Because of God ministering through that group and the church I now have a new mindset.  I know that God has restored my purity and He has a plan for my life in spite of my past.  I now have a PASSION for him and for ministering to young girls that face the same things I faced.  We are responsible to the generations behind us and it is time we STEP UP and lead.

I know God loves me and I know the man God has for me will see me as Beautiful not scarred from my past.  I believe that God is about to start something in my life and I am GRATEFUL that He has given me the opportunity to go back to school for ministry so that I can do what He has called me to do!



He will do the same for you!  Guard your heart!  Don’t compromise your values for anyone!  In the end – the aftermath of adultery on God and your (future) spouse IS NOT WORTH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  No guy deserves you if he is going to force or pressure you to do anything!



Tips for avoiding the Mess:
*Turn off ANYTHING that makes you even think about acts of adultery  (the reality shows, the movies, the music, whatever causes you to start the drift)
*Get something (a ring, tattoo, etc) to remind you that you are committed to purity until your Daddy sends you the man He wants for you - Guys like Tim Tebow DO exist!  =)
* PRAY!!!  For your future husband every single day! (Go here )
*Get involved at church and serve your little buns off!
*Find a young girl and mentor her and be mentored yourself!


Thursday, August 9, 2012

Get Focused

I HAVE to get better about writing on here......

I wanted to share something with you about a new website that I have found that is CHANGING my life!  It's #SheReadsTruth...It is a community of  women seeking God together through daily Bible reading.  You read the plan and blog/tweet/journal about it.  It really is amazing to see so many women reading the same scriptures and God meeting each of us right where we are. That's what is so awesome about God - He meets us where we are and loves us even though we can be a big mess!  I am glad I found this site when I did because my church is doing 21 Days of Prayer and I am SO pumped to be growing closer to God and letting Him minister to me. I am hoping that I can blog about some of the things God speaks to me during this 21 days and get better about journaling.  Speaking of journaling, a friend of mine wrote an awesome post about the purpose of a prayer journal.  Go check it out here.... Saving My Soul


Notice the Linky on the side of my blog
<--------------  Go Link up to share any prayer requests you may have and I will be more than honored to pray for you!!!!


Get ready to start the journey of your LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Monday, June 11, 2012

The Breaking

I'm back and ready to use this blog for something more than just writing down memories.  I want to use this blog to help girls out there that are hurting, broken, insecure, a mess...etc.  Here's why..  


God allows certain things to take place in our lives to catapult us into the ministry He has planned for us. Each person has a unique plan that God has for their life we just need to prepare ourselves for it.  Every one of us is a minister in one way or another.  I know this because I am walking on the start of this journey myself.


Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in ADVANCE for us to do.” 


As some of you know that follow this blog, relationships have NOT been my strong-suit.  I have allowed my insecurity, fears, loneliness, etc to define me instead of trusting God at His word and seeing myself the way that he sees me (and YOU).  He looks at us and does not see the mess (past, future or PRESENT). He sees his daughter and he wants us to rest in his UNSTOPPABLE love for us.  He is the ONLY one that will love us that way! 


I didn't see that for a long time and God allowed me to have what I was BEGGING for only for me to see that I would not like it.  I begged for God to send me "somebody" and he did.  He let me get back with my ex boyfriend and I was more than miserable but I lied to myself and said I was happy.  He appeared to be this great and wonderful guy but he was really wearing a mask.  I knew the relationship was unhealthy but didn't care.  I ran past every single red flag just so I could be with him.  Well of course things ended very badly.  I was crushed but I prayed this "God I don't know what your will is but I need to get peace about this.  If we are meant to reconcile then I don't want to have a part in it.  It has to be all you!  If we are not meant to reconcile then do WHATEVER IT TAKES to take the desire away."  Well God answered that prayer through a creative  line of events.  I went to a women's conference with a really good friend of mine and on the way we were talking about my relationship and God allowed me to remember a name badge I found in his truck 4 months earlier.  It hit me that the name tag belonged to a girl his brother was talking to on Facebook.  So, when I got home I looked the girl up and there it was right in front of my eyes......He had been cheating the whole entire time with this girl.


You would think I would have been upset but I wasn't I was at peace.  I was a little mad at myself for not paying attention but I knew that God knew that was what it was going to take for me to truly 100% say GOODBYE to him.  I still care greatly for him and I pray that he finds Jesus but I am not the one for him.


Anyway, I say all that to say this..... be careful what you beg God for because he just may give it to you and you may want to return it!  Don't settle out of loneliness or fear of being single forever.  It is SO not worth it.


Helpful hints on my red flags:
~Is he totally in love with Jesus?  If not run for the hills because he won't love you the way he is supposed to
~Look at the dad and his relationship with the mom (or lack there of)-----Is it healthy?
~If he has a Facebook and refuses to friend you and claims "he never gets on" ----RUN AWAY
~If when he is showing you a picture on his phone and swipes to the next and IMMEDIATELY turns his phone ----RUN AWAY
~If you never meet his friends ----- ask him why
~If his friends are liars and cheats and he condones it he probably is too
~If he gets extremely defensive about plans he has with his "friends" RUN - he is cheating
~If he refuses to delete his Plenty of Fish account saying "he just gets on to delete messages" RUN
~If it takes an act of Congress for him to call you ---RUN
~If you find anything at all belonging to a female in his house or car (and he doesn't have a sister) RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND DON'T LOOK BACK


Seriously girls, I overlooked a lot with this guy and got burned badly so if you have 1 question in your head then he is not the guy God has for you and you need to as Kellie Pickler says "Never be nothing but tough" and leave before you have to go Miranda Lambert on him. =)  He won't fight for you so don't waste time fighting for the relationship.




Some encouragement from scripture and tweets
  • "I am with you ALWAYS" Matthew 28.20
  • In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3.6
  • Your identity, purpose, and destiny are found in God alone.  His plans are perfect. Seek Him and Trust HIM
  • Single doesn't always mean lonely and relationship doesn't always mean happy
  • You may not be perfect but Jesus thinks you are to die for
  • The truth doesn't cost anything. A lie could cost you everything
  • A Good apology has 3 parts :I'm sorry, It's my fault, and What can I do to change it?
  • God loves you just the way you are.
  • If you chase the wrong things good things won't catch you
  • You are a divine creation...one of God's masterpieces.
  • Submit to God and the devil will flee James4.7
  • Trust God or choose to be miserable....It's your choice.